This might just be the reason you aren't over it yet...

have a feeling you’ve experienced this thought before…

I should be over this already!

I cannot believe I’m nearly 40, 50, 60 … and still dealing with this…

It’s so frustrating to continue to repeat old patterns of thinking, reacting, behaving, that you know you felt as a child and experienced as a child.

And we desperately WANT to be over these, and feel ashamed and angry about these “childish” ways showing up. Whether it be reactivity, defensiveness, blaming this or that for our current situation, holding grudges, feeling plagued by fears of how others are seeing us, going above and beyond to please with the hopes it will fulfill a sense of purpose, and yet... still feeling empty and small…

Many of us think– and are conditioned to believe and/or assume– that the number of years we live means we’ll outgrow some deeply rooted wounds and emotional charges… that we won’t hold that grudge, react defensively, blame others, feel shame for being ourselves...

It often doesn’t work like that. If you were lucky enough that the charge was innocuous, you were securely attached, and didn’t equate the situation and feeling with your identity, sense of safety, protection, and love… then maybe you did get over it…

BUT some of us still notice these charges coming up, and they recycle old patterns housed in the life scripts of the subconscious mind.

They play on repeat… and until we bring more conscious awareness to them and meet them courageously, they will likely continue to fester. Such “festering” is connected to the MEANING we ascribe to these patterns.

So, let's say you made a mistake, you overlooked a detail, and someone called you out on it... The child who has a rooted identity/belief of, "I am bad," may immediately feel that energy and shirk, hide, react, overcompensate, be fearful of rejection, etc.

Working with this, healing and meeting oneself with more conscious awareness would include a nice breath of awareness of the emotion, met with a supportive response like, “Oh, right… there’s that old pattern. What am I making this mean about me? What else could it mean? And... How do I want AND choose to show up now? Who do I want to be through this?"

When make these patterns MEAN something about us, we can far too easily equate them with WHO we are, our value, our worth, and even our safety.

So... perhaps you notice tendencies …

to lie in order to “not get in trouble”, to think everyone else has it easy, that there’s something wrong with you, to hold back your opinion so not to ruffle any feathers, to blame others for your anger or actions or undesired reality, to see yourself hijacked & victim of your current circumstance, to hide from your own greatness, to feel like you’re too much, not enough, not worthy, to feel guilty and apologize for—basically—existing…

and more…

There’s likely a child in you, still operating on the subconscious level, who needs to heal, and she hasn’t simply disappeared over time. Her timeline is still having an impact on you.

She’s doing what she knows, what’s safe and familiar. Yet… the “adult conscious you” knows those corresponding thoughts and behaviors aren’t serving you, and desperately want to be over with it already.

YET, when we see this as a linear thing, we can feel stuck.

This is much more of a cyclical process of learning, healing, peeling back layers and softening each time, so you can dissolve the charges and heal the wounds along the way with curiosity, compassion and love.

These emotional charges and wounds can and will soften. And as they do, you will be even more empowered to heal in profound ways. Your inner child is ready for you when you invite her in.

When we honor our inner child’s feelings, we release the emotional hurts that we’re still subconsciously carrying around. - Patricia Hope

How about it? Invite. Her. In.

Drop the narrative that says the number of years you chalk up gives you some emotional wisdom and capacity.

There's so much beauty you get to experience as you build a deeper unconditionally loving connection to yourself that you never thought was possible.

So, how about it? Let’s explore this work even more deeply!

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